In our culture anger tends to get a pretty bad press. Indeed, repressed or out of control anger can cause harm both physically and emotionally and can permanently damage relationships. There are obvious and important reasons for these types of anger to be feared, we must not overlook these or take them lightly. However, we want to start this blog by celebrating healthy anger. We believe pure anger, like any other emotion, is a force for good, and has deep wisdom behind it.
• Anger gives us the drive and passion to stand up for ourself.
• Anger helps us to know when a boundary has been crossed.
• Anger gives us the strength to say ‘ No ‘ ‘ Stop ‘ or ‘ This isn’t right for me.’
• Anger is a vital force within us. It keeps us alive and growing.
• Anger empowers us and helps us face our fear.
• Healthy anger gives us the self power with which we can hold others, and ourselves, to account.
• Anger gives us the courage to walk towards difficult conversations.
• The power of anger gives us the strength to speak the truth.
• Anger is strong and clear and can bring the manipulative and deceptive behaviour of others out in to the light.
• Anger takes action, and can break the paralysing cycle of fear and analysis that can otherwise cause us to sit back and become passive victims of circumstance.
“Anger is a river. It wants to be released into the vaster ocean. It wants to move naturally. When we repress it with premature forgiveness, block it with false positivity, repress it in the name of pseudo-peace, we just dam(n) our natural flow. The river then turns inward, against the self, or explodes outwardly, against innocents. Better we express it when it is in our awareness- not in a way that is destructive to humanity- but in a way that is authentic and that restores the integrity of our being. Anger isn’t the enemy. Misplaced anger is. Let the river flow……” ~Jeff Brown~
“Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” ~Aristotle~
“When they get angry, they bring about a change.” ~ Malcolm X~
“The only people mad at you for speaking the truth are those living a lie. Keep speaking it.” ~Author unknown.~
Hopefully this blog has started you thinking about the positive attributes of anger and how it may be of value in our lives. In our next blog we explore the relationship between anger and love…
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